Steven is the author of Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators: Neutralize the Users, Abusers and Manipulators Hidden Among Us, which offers a new paradigm for dealing with toxic people. The insights in his book inform much of his work as a dispute resolution professional and consultant, and have proved eye-opening for attorneys and their clients.
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Steven knows how abusive and manipulative people prey on the emotions of good people – and how good people can protect themselves. He offers a radically different view of these Emotional Predators and provides practical effective solutions. For Emotional Predators, life is a strategy game to dominate and control, and you are either a player to be defeated or a game piece to be used. Without empathy or remorse, they’ll ruin your life, and traditional approaches will make things worse.
His book teaches 5 essential steps for protecting yourself, valuable guidance for safe relationships and over 30 specific defensive tactics for:
- Distinguishing romance from intimacy
- Restoring your self-esteem
- Removing your emotional triggers
- Using gratitude and humor
- Playing their games better than they do – without becoming like them
- Screening professionals to be sure they can help
- Regaining control in family court
- Breaking an addiction to an Emotional Predator
- Re-balancing power in your favor
- Adjusting beliefs that keep you trapped
- Responding strategically, instead of reacting emotionally
About Steven
Steven Wolhandler, J.D., M.A., L.P.C. is an attorney and psychotherapist with decades of experience in dispute resolution and psychology.
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An attorney since 1984, Steven is a graduate of Cornell Law School where he was an Editor of the Law Review. He practiced law in a large Wall Street law firm and as a soloist in a small New Mexican town. Steven began his doctoral clinical psychology training in 1988, taking a leave of absence in 1990. He formed Creative Conflict Resolutions, LLC in 1999 and received a Masters in Counseling Psychology in 2002.
Steven has been resolving business and family disputes outside the courts since 1993 (as a mediator, arbitrator, consultant, custody evaluator and parental decision-maker). He combines his legal training and experience with his deep understanding of the psychological basis of high-conflict disputes. He is the author of Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators: Neutralize the Users, Abusers and Manipulators Hidden Among Us, which presents a new paradigm for understanding toxic people and relationships.